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Growth:
The main purpose of life is emotional and spiritual growth. No one really ever becomes fully grown up. Most people are actually emotional children walking around in adult’s clothing. Growth involves pain. Many of us would like to go protected from the challenges of adult life. To know whether you have the basic prerequisite for growth, ask yourself. Do I accept the impossibility of returning to childhood?

Courage:
Emotional and spiritual growth demands that you meet the challenges with which life continually confronts you, despite your fear of painful new experiences. Taking on these challenges in the face of such fear requires courage. When you feel uneasy about an uncomfortable situation, ask yourself, Will I be better off avoiding or meeting this challenge. If you act only when your inner voice tells you it is the right thing to do, you are truly on the road to growth and maturity.

Anger:
Anger is a necessary emotion and an important self defense mechanism. But we need to know when anger is appropriate and how to express it. When a situation provokes you to anger, there are at leaset five different ways to express it. Ask yourself,
1. Should I apologize? My initial reaction was mistaken. I was at fault.
2. Should I ignore it? What the other person did was an accident. It is not his/her fault.
3. Should I minimize my anger? The other person did insult me a little. But it wasn’t important.
4. Should I express my anger? I will think about it for a few days. If it is clear that the other person wronged me, I will complain to him/her.
5. Should I lose my temper? The other person wronged me so badly that I have to express my anger strongly on the spot.

Judgment:
It is impossible to go through life without making judgments about people. How well you make those judgments is critical to the quality of your life. Before you judge someone else, you should judge yourself.
Example; You have to fire an unsatisfactory employee , it has to be done. But
ask yourself
1. Was I sufficiently concerned with the employee earlier?
2. Did I speak to him/her as soon as I could have, or did I avoid confrontation
until it was too late to solve the problem? If you answer such questions honestly, you will know how to act in the future to prevent the need for similar painful results.

Uncertainty:
Life is a series of decisions and there is an easy way and a difficult way to make each of these decisions. The easy way is to always follow a rigid rule. The difficult way is to analyze every situation thoroughly as you can. The easy way avoids thinking and allows quick decision making. The difficult way leaves you in doubt but admits there is no magic formula for the correct answer in every situation. If you take the difficult way you know that you take life seriously.