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Had lunch with the boys today at the local sushi place on Rt. 440. We barely hang out anymore but we still manage to have quality conversations. No homo but we have a bond that time cant break. The main topic of the get together was to discuss marriage. Give each other feedback if it was time to pop the question and to make sure the significant other was the right one. It was interesting hearing us discuss this subject matter. Our conversations have evolved from money, girls, cars, jobs, housing, family, to marriage.

The conversation went the opposite direction when the table next to us was talking out loud about the subject matter of cheating. That’s when the conversation got stupid. Out of curiosity I looked up a definition of cheating. So what is cheating? Here is what wikipidea has to say.

With regard to human relationships, couples tend to expect sexual monogamy of each other. If so, then cheating commonly refers to forms of infidelity, particularly adultery. However, there are other divisions of infidelity, which may be emotional. Cheating by thinking of, touching and talking with someone you are attracted to may be equally damaging to one of the parties. Emotional cheating may be correlated to that of emotional abuse, which to date is treated as seriously in a court of law as physical cheating. With the expansion of understanding of other cultures, there is a wide spectrum of what cheating means. When in a committed relationship, the definition of cheating is based on both parties opinions and both parties may redefine their understanding to match the party at an either lower or higher extreme of this definition. Some couples simply believe that cheating constitutes doing anything, whether verbal or physical, that one would not do in front of their significant other. Such examples would include: expressing attraction to another person, electronic communications, kissing, making out, and sexual relations.

Many people consider cheating to be any violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of a relationship, which may or may not include sexual monogamy. For example, in some polyamorous relationships, the concepts of commitment and fidelity do not necessarily hinge on complete sexual or emotional monogamy. Whether polyamorous or monogamous, the boundaries to which people agree vary widely, and sometimes these boundaries evolve within each relationship.